Please can we not have a discussion about jimbo's ring here?
How to make them stay?
Periodic, random performance bonuses. - "Here's a token of our appreciation for xyz you did recently."
And a cash bday present from you and 'personal' present as well - like a framed photo of her and the kids.
Not all helpers want to go back home that often - it costs them a lot of money.
We never gave pay increases, just the bonuses.
Works for us.
helpers helpers helpers why don't you come out and say it...slaves...that's what they are
What a load of garbage. And thoroughly unhelpful for the OP who's just looking for help in a practical issue.
Scrambler - I think you are over-thinking live out and I think you will appreciate someone there for the early months of the baby at least. Where do you live - can you get a small office close by and give her your office? With a screaming baby in the house you may want somewhere quieter to work in any event....!
Mat the rat strikes again. If you refuse to wake up and feed your child at night (your parental obligation) you shouldn't have had one.